B the change U wanna C

All too often, clients that I see for a crystal healing session are experiencing a difficult relationships in their lives. For example:

· a partner that is very critical and not respectful and is 'never going to change'. Communication is at a stalemate and is going no where.

· finding oneself in conflict with a family member and the relationship has deteriorated to the point that the other person wants no contact.


They are usually frustrated and also feel a sense of powerlessness and helplessness. How can they make the situation better when the other person is unwilling to listen, to consider change, or even be in contact?

The the key to change lies within.

They are responsible - 'response able' - and my job is to help rebalance their energy so their response is clear, harms no one and is positive. Because what is showing up in their present daily life is a legacy of unrecognized, unresolved patterns from the past.

In the last year I read the book 'Zero Limits' by Joe Vitale and I discovered that many of the foundation concepts are similar to those on which I base my own healing work.

The value of accepting that we are a 100% responsible for what is showing up in our world, how we experience our world and for our thoughts. This view moves us from the position of victim and being helpless and powerless to that of the creator of our lives and being totally 'response able'. This is the Hawaiian healing tradition of Ho'oponopono.
What our conscious mind can grasp is a fraction of what our subconscious mind is processing. It is well established that there is a million times more nerve activity in the subconscious than in the conscious mind. This means that what we are aware of consciously is a very minimal part of what is happening at any given moment in our life.
As a result we do not make choices in a fully informed and conscious manner but rather 'they bubble up from our unconscious mind, and when they finally reach the surface of consciousness we take ownership of them' (page 33 from 'Zero Limits') thinking that we just thought of them. In other words, we live our life mostly in automatic mode, replaying tapes held in our subconscious. We are reacting to our life based on past experiences rather that moving forward into our future and creating anew.
How do we move out of this endless subconsciously derived replay of the past? As Dr. Hew Lin explains 'For the ancient Hawaiians, all problems begin as thought. But having the thought is not the problem. ... The problem is that our problem thoughts (are associated) with painful memories.'
He goes on to explain that using our conscious mind or our intellect can't solve these problem thoughts. It can only manage them.

The real solution is to let them go.

When you do ho'oponopono, you are surrendering and calling on grace or Love or a divine force to take the painful thoughts and transform it, clear it, or purify it. When the painful thoughts are neutralized, there is a release and an opening for light and love to fill in, for something brand new to take its place.
You do not have to know what the problem thought is to do ho'onoponopono. You simply have to notice when you are experiencing distress or upset in any way - mentally, emotionally, physically or spiritually. Your responsibility is to clear or to clean the energy of distress with the following:

I love you.

I'm sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

For example, if someone says or does something that upsets you, rather than blame the other or point to the other to change or apologize, take full responsibility for how you are reacting. Recognize and accept that for the person to bug you there is something going on in you that is the cause of it. To release your distress, simply say to yourself 'I'm sorry. Please forgive me'. Keep repeating the statements over and over to yourself until you feel relief. Be aware that 'doing the process doesn't always mean instant results. The idea isn't to achieve results, but to achieve peace. When you do that, you often get the results you wanted in the first place.'
In saying the four statements, you are giving love and saying you are sorry to yourself and asking forgiveness of yourself for your reaction and for your problem thoughts. And you don't even have to know what those problem thoughts are for the statements to work. In fact, you can do ho'oponopono without any problem focus as a continual clearing of the subconscious.

Ho'oponopono is an engagingly simple and yet very powerful method of clearing the unconscious thoughts and beliefs arising from past memories and wounding in your life which cause imbalance and disease. It invites a letting go of the past, creates freedom, and opens a space to create your life in the present in the spirit of love and compassion for self and others. It is a problem-solving process that is done entirely within yourself.


Excerpted from Dr. Nelie Johnson who is a family physician and facilitator who provides seminars, workshops, and private consultations. www.awarenessheals.ca